Tips in Teaching Your Child to Be a Good Listener

Listening is a skill that aids in communication and relationships. In my book, "Jeannie Ann's Grandma Has Cancer," I mention the power of listening and why it matters, especially when providing support.

However, listening is not just for providing support; it can be a lifelong skill that aids in building strong connections and learning. 

If a child doesn't know how to listen, they may have problems interacting and relating with others later on in life. It can also hinder their social dynamics with peers.

To prevent these adverse effects, it helps to teach your young child the art of listening in your home. Here are some handy tips for teaching your child to be a good listener:

1. Teach them to maintain eye contact.

Encourage your child to make eye contact when speaking and when being spoken to. This is the first step in engaging in a conversation because many consider eye contact as a personal cue and signifies the person has their attention.

2. Have them retell stories.

Kids love stories, and another way of getting them to improve their listening and verbal skills at the same time is to encourage them to retell their favorite stories. In this step, recite to them a favorite fairy-tale or short story they enjoy. Once you finish, have them repeat the story to you.

3. Eliminate distractions.

It's hard to listen when constant noises like blaring TVs and videos are playing on your cell phone. Before engaging in a conversation with your child, turn off these devices for fewer distractions.

4. Address your child by name.

Many people tune in more when their name is called. When asking your child to do something, add their name in the direction so they immediately give attention. 

5. Play direction games like "Simon Says," "Duck, Duck, Goose," or "Musical Chairs."

Teaching your child the art of listening doesn't have to be complicated! One way to help them improve their listening skills is to play a game that emphasizes this skill. Games like "Simon Says," "Duck, Duck, Goose," or "Musical Chairs" require keen listening ears.

Before starting the game, start with clear and concise instructions. Remember to thank your child when they listen closely and follow directions effectively.

Takeaway: Listening is the foundation of learning and communication. When we start with these listening exercises, we teach children to become more aware and in tune with their surroundings. Eventually, they'll grow to listen, ask, and become more independent people.

What to Know About Cancer Support Groups

Receiving a cancer diagnosis can be a crucial moment in a person's life. While cancer has many physical issues during the treatment phase, it can also create emotional pain for the person.

In my book, "Jeannie Ann's Grandma Has Breast Cancer," Jeannie Ann's grandmother talks about cancer's physical and emotional pain; both require different treatment types, which must effectively be carried out.

One way to help cope with the emotional distress of a cancer diagnosis is by joining a support group.

What is a Cancer Support Group?

A cancer support group is a social arrangement that offers a listening ear to people who are or were affected by cancer. Since cancer can alter a family's dynamic, some groups provide support for newly diagnosed persons, post-care persons, caregivers, and spouses.

These meetings occur regularly. While many sessions occur face-to-face, some may arrange theirs virtually or over the phone.

During these meetings, a group leader or facilitator may discuss particular topics. Some examples include opening up about your diagnosis to your family and how you've coped since the last meeting.

Each person gets a chance to share. These meetings may involve empathy, tears, laughter, acceptance, and even an opportunity to learn something new. Because cancer can be an isolating experience, even people with strong support networks can benefit from visiting a group of peers with similar experiences.

Why Do People Join Support Groups?

Joining a support group can effectively address any emotional pain or problem on a person's end. Regardless of the person's current relationship with friends and family, people join support groups because they may find it beneficial to be in a group where others have experienced the same things.

Additionally, spouses of cancer patients can also have their support group because the dynamics and responsibilities of being their spouse's primary caregiver are unique and require support and care.

 Joining a support group can also remind the person that they are not alone. When a person undergoes a life-changing event, such as a serious diagnosis, it can alter the course of their life. When that happens, the urge to isolate yourself to prevent "becoming a burden" becomes tempting, but doing so rarely offers emotional security. On the other hand, joining a group can give one a new perspective and assurance.

How to Join a Cancer Support Group?

If you are interested in joining a cancer support group, consider asking your local hospital for any available meetings. You may also ask friends or peers for input or if they know any groups that offer a listening ear.

Bottomline: While a support group can help one cope, it is not a requirement for a person to join one. After all, not everyone who undergoes similar situations may find it beneficial because of various reasons.

However, it doesn't hurt to keep an open mind and see if joining a support group can help ease the burden. If you feel you do not fit in well with one group, there is no harm in looking for another group that aligns better with your emotional needs and values.

The Journey to Bethlehem: Some Facts to Know

In the second week of Advent, we light the candle of faith or "Bethlehem Candle." Its namesake represents Joseph and Mary's journey to Joseph's hometown.

We learn of this journey in Luke 2:1–7. Mary and Joseph must travel to Bethlehem from Nazareth at that time, which takes at least four to five days. Some time in their journey, Mary gave birth to Jesus.

Why did they have to travel to Bethlehem?

In those days, Caesar Augustus had issued a decree that every citizen in the Roman world should have a census. A census is a document necessary for a person to pay taxes. Joseph, a descendant of King David, must go back to his hometown in Bethlehem to register. Mary, who is heavily pregnant, goes with him on this journey.

What happened during their time in Bethlehem?

Since Bethlehem is relatively far from Nazareth, it took the couple a few days to finally arrive. Once they arrived, they found that several inns were full and had no available lodging. Seeking shelter, the two finally found a stable where Mary gave birth.

After giving birth, Mary wrapped her son in cloth and placed him in a manger.

What happened after Jesus was born?

A few shepherds were living out in the fields nearby. While they were watching their flocks at night, an angel suddenly appeared and alerted them of the good news. Joyous, the shepherds went to the stable, where they found the Messiah lying in the manger. After seeing him, the shepherds alerted many people.

What did the three wise men give to Christ?

Many people visited the newly born Messiah. Three wise men from the east went to the manger with a guiding star and presented Jesus with three gifts. Gold, frankincense, and myrrh. Each of these gifts has a special meaning.

What are the meanings of the gifts?

The three gifts have a spiritual meaning. Gold represents kingship on earth. Since Christ was prophesized as "King of the Jews," it's only fitting that he receives gold.

Frankincense, on the other hand, is an incense or aromatic used for worship. Jesus, the son of God, is prophesized as the world's savior. As such, presenting him with frankincense acknowledges his divine goal.

Myrrh, an embalming oil, is a symbol of death. While it may be shocking for some, we learn later on that Christ must die so we can have eternal life. Myrrh represents the suffering he must take to cleanse us from our sins.

Some final thoughts:

While the story is brief, it offers much insight into Christ's future. As you can see, his birth is special because he is the son of God. However, because of this, he must also undergo suffering in the future.

While we soon realize that Jesus has risen from the dead, we must also remember that his Second Coming will bring glory to us all.

- by Diane Davies, author, "Life in the Neck: Advent of Christmas"

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Why Do We Celebrate Advent?

Advent is an extraordinary holiday that often gets lost in the Christmas hype. Unlike most holidays that happen in a day, Advent consists of four Sundays or four weeks until Christmas Eve.

Advent should not be confused with Christmas. While Christmas is a day of celebrating Christ's birth, the anticipation leading up to it is also vital. Here are some reasons why believers celebrate this holiday:

1. Advent allows us time to reflect.

The first day of Advent is considered the first day of the church calendar. The four weeks of preparation include anticipating Christ's arrival. During this time, believers reflect on preparing themselves to welcome Christ's coming. Whether through prayer, reflection, or music—we all must learn to open the year with Christ first.

2. It allows us to focus on Jesus.

Many people look forward to Christmas because of its fun activities. While giving gifts and enjoying feasts are significant, we must remember the real meaning of the holiday. Aside from celebrating the Nativity of Christ, Advent also serves as a reminder of his second coming. When he returns, we will find our place in heaven with him.

Additionally, celebrating Advent allows us to appreciate Christmas more. When we acknowledge our waiting for Jesus' arrival, we become even more appreciative when he arrives!

3. It allows us to celebrate God's love.

The Advent wreath is full of symbols. Usually made with evergreens, the wreath symbolizes continuous life. The wreath also represents God's eternity; through Christ, we may find everlasting life.

Aside from the wreath, each candle serves an essential holiday purpose. The first purple candle represents hope because of the prophecy of Christ's arrival. The second purple candle represents faith, which reminds us of Mary and Joseph's journey to Bethlehem. The third pink candle represents joy when Christ finally arrives. The final candle is purple which means peace. The last candle also acknowledges the angel's words, "Peace on Earth, Good Will Toward Men."

An additional candle, which is relatively new, is white and placed in the center of the wreath. People usually light this final candle on Christmas Eve, representing Christ's purity as our savior.

Bottomline:

In conclusion, these are just some reasons why we celebrate Advent. To learn more about this holiday, consider visiting your local church. The first day of Advent for 2022 starts on November 27, 2022, and ends on December 24. If you want to make a wreath in your home, please be careful with lighting candles.

- by Diane Davies, author of Life in the Neck: Advent of Christmas

Bible Verses that Celebrate Advent

Advent is an essential season in most Christian calendars. Many denominations celebrate the holiday by preparing a wreath and lighting candles. However, another essential part of the season is selecting the relevant passages. Here are some verses that remind us of the holiday's importance:

1. Isaiah 9:6–7 (NIV)

For to us a child is born,

to us a son is given,

and the government will be on his shoulders.

And he will be called

Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God,

Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.

Of the greatness of his government and peace

there will be no end.

He will reign on David's throne

and over his kingdom,

establishing and upholding it

with justice and righteousness

from that time on and forever.

The zeal of the Lord Almighty

will accomplish this.

This passage is fitting for the first week of Advent. During this time, believers will light a "Prophecy Candle," which symbolizes hope.

2. Luke 2:1–7 (NIV)

This passage talks about the birth of Jesus. This week will also focus on lighting the Bethlehem candle, representing Mary and Joseph's journey.

In those days, Caesar Augustus issued a decree that a census should be taken of the entire Roman world. (This was the first census that took place while Quirinius was governor of Syria.) And everyone went to their own town to register.

So, Joseph also went up from the town of Nazareth in Galilee to Judea, to Bethlehem, the town of David, because he belonged to the house and line of David. He went there to register with Mary, who was pledged to be married to him and was expecting a child.

While they were there, the time came for the baby to be born, and she gave birth to her firstborn, a son. She wrapped him in cloths and placed him in a manger, because there was no guest room available for them.

3. Luke 2:8–21

This verse continues Mary and Joseph's journey, which introduces the shepherds. It also includes the angel's praise of the Messiah's birth. Remember to light the pink candle of joy for this week. This verse also includes the angel's appearance, you can repeat this verse for next week's lighting.

Reading and reflecting on the Lord's word is a great way to keep us grounded during the holiday. Aside from these verses, other ways to celebrate Advent include singing songs. To God be the Glory!

- by Diane Davies, author of Life in the Neck: Advent of Christmas

How to Celebrate Advent with the Family

In my book, "Life in the Neck Advent of Christmas," siblings Eli and Elsie celebrate Advent. Advent is the liturgical holiday that leads up to Christ's Nativity, which usually falls on Christmas.

Most Christians celebrate Advent by lighting a special candle each Sunday in the four weeks leading up to Christmas.

What makes Advent unique is that it helps families focus on the true meaning of the holiday. From Christ's humble birth to his legacy, celebrating Advent keeps us grounded on what is truly important.

Suppose you are like most American families and would like to celebrate Advent. Here are examples of how to make it into a family tradition:

1. Light up special Advent Candles.

Advent involves lighting up special candles on a wreath. Every Sunday leading up to Christmas, families may light up a candle and pray before they start reading. Some advent candles come in different colors, which include purple, pink, and white. Each of them has its special meaning.

- For the first two weeks, the candle will be purple. The first symbolizes hope and is known as the "Prophecy Candle." Isaiah foretold the birth of Christ in Isaiah 9:6.

- The second candle symbolizes faith. This candle is the "Bethlehem Candle," representing Joseph and Mary's journey.

- The third candle is pink, also called the "Shepard's Candle." This candle reminds us of the joy the world experienced when Jesus was born.

- On the fourth week, the candle is purple this time and marks the final week of prayer and penance. This candle is called the "Angel's Candle," which symbolizes peace on earth.

- Many modern celebrations include a fifth candle lit on Christmas Eve. This white candle is called the "Christ Candle" and is in the center of the wreath.

When lighting candles, it's essential to observe proper safety measures. However, fake candle lamps can be safer alternatives.

2. Share Stories and Scriptures related to Advent.

After lighting the candle each week, it helps to reflect on some of the passages related to Advent. If you have younger children, consider sharing stories related to the holiday. Here are some stories for suggestions:

- Isaiah delivering God's message of the Messiah's birth

- Mary and Joseph's journey to Bethlehem

- The Three Wise Men

3. Practice Charity.

Another way to have a meaningful advent is to spread joy within the community. Teach your children the gift of giving by donating old clothes, toys, and books to a local charity. You can also bake treats together and share them with neighbors and loved ones!

4. Attend your local church during Advent.

Consider attending church every Sunday for advent masses from the weeks heading into Christmas. Allow yourself to connect with the holiday's themes and enrich your family's spiritual health.

Advent is a time of focusing on our Savior's birth. For more suggestions, visit your church to see if there are advent-related activities.

- by Diane Davies, author of Life in the Neck: Advent of Christmas

The Power of Physical Touch

In the book Jeannie Ann's Grandma Has Breast Cancer, there's a scene where Jeannie Ann visits her grandma. When Jeannie Ann arrives, she is unsure of what to say. So, she gives her grandmother a big hug and a kiss. This act of physical affection provides Jeannie Ann's grandmother with emotional comfort and healing during a difficult time.

Human beings are wired for connection, and physical touch is one of the most basic and essential contact forms. Research has shown that physical touch can profoundly impact our health and well-being. Here are just a few ways that physical touch can benefit cancer patients.

Physical touch can reduce stress levels. Stress weakens the immune system, which makes it more difficult for the body to fight off disease. Cancer patients who receive regular massages or other forms of physical touch have been shown to have lower levels of stress hormones in their bodies.

Physical touch can ease the pain. Cancer patients often experience pain due to their treatments or the tumors themselves. Studies have shown that massage therapy can be an effective way to reduce pain in cancer patients. Massage therapy has also been shown to help reduce phantom limb pain in amputees.

Physical touch can boost immunity. When we are touched, our bodies release oxytocin, a hormone that has been shown to boost immunity. Oxytocin is also known as the "cuddle hormone" because it is released when we hug, kiss, or cuddle with someone we love. Cancer patients who receive regular oxytocin boost through physical touch may have an easier time fighting off infection and disease.

The power of physical touch should not be underestimated. Whether a hug from a loved one or a massage from a professional therapist, physical touch can provide cancer patients with much-needed stress relief, pain relief, and immunity boosts. If you know someone battling Cancer, consider hugging them today—it just might be exactly what they need.

by Diane Davies,

author, Jeannie Ann's Grandma Has Breast Cancer