Tips in Teaching Your Child to Be a Good Listener

Listening is a skill that aids in communication and relationships. In my book, "Jeannie Ann's Grandma Has Cancer," I mention the power of listening and why it matters, especially when providing support.

However, listening is not just for providing support; it can be a lifelong skill that aids in building strong connections and learning. 

If a child doesn't know how to listen, they may have problems interacting and relating with others later on in life. It can also hinder their social dynamics with peers.

To prevent these adverse effects, it helps to teach your young child the art of listening in your home. Here are some handy tips for teaching your child to be a good listener:

1. Teach them to maintain eye contact.

Encourage your child to make eye contact when speaking and when being spoken to. This is the first step in engaging in a conversation because many consider eye contact as a personal cue and signifies the person has their attention.

2. Have them retell stories.

Kids love stories, and another way of getting them to improve their listening and verbal skills at the same time is to encourage them to retell their favorite stories. In this step, recite to them a favorite fairy-tale or short story they enjoy. Once you finish, have them repeat the story to you.

3. Eliminate distractions.

It's hard to listen when constant noises like blaring TVs and videos are playing on your cell phone. Before engaging in a conversation with your child, turn off these devices for fewer distractions.

4. Address your child by name.

Many people tune in more when their name is called. When asking your child to do something, add their name in the direction so they immediately give attention. 

5. Play direction games like "Simon Says," "Duck, Duck, Goose," or "Musical Chairs."

Teaching your child the art of listening doesn't have to be complicated! One way to help them improve their listening skills is to play a game that emphasizes this skill. Games like "Simon Says," "Duck, Duck, Goose," or "Musical Chairs" require keen listening ears.

Before starting the game, start with clear and concise instructions. Remember to thank your child when they listen closely and follow directions effectively.

Takeaway: Listening is the foundation of learning and communication. When we start with these listening exercises, we teach children to become more aware and in tune with their surroundings. Eventually, they'll grow to listen, ask, and become more independent people.

What to Know About Cancer Support Groups

Receiving a cancer diagnosis can be a crucial moment in a person's life. While cancer has many physical issues during the treatment phase, it can also create emotional pain for the person.

In my book, "Jeannie Ann's Grandma Has Breast Cancer," Jeannie Ann's grandmother talks about cancer's physical and emotional pain; both require different treatment types, which must effectively be carried out.

One way to help cope with the emotional distress of a cancer diagnosis is by joining a support group.

What is a Cancer Support Group?

A cancer support group is a social arrangement that offers a listening ear to people who are or were affected by cancer. Since cancer can alter a family's dynamic, some groups provide support for newly diagnosed persons, post-care persons, caregivers, and spouses.

These meetings occur regularly. While many sessions occur face-to-face, some may arrange theirs virtually or over the phone.

During these meetings, a group leader or facilitator may discuss particular topics. Some examples include opening up about your diagnosis to your family and how you've coped since the last meeting.

Each person gets a chance to share. These meetings may involve empathy, tears, laughter, acceptance, and even an opportunity to learn something new. Because cancer can be an isolating experience, even people with strong support networks can benefit from visiting a group of peers with similar experiences.

Why Do People Join Support Groups?

Joining a support group can effectively address any emotional pain or problem on a person's end. Regardless of the person's current relationship with friends and family, people join support groups because they may find it beneficial to be in a group where others have experienced the same things.

Additionally, spouses of cancer patients can also have their support group because the dynamics and responsibilities of being their spouse's primary caregiver are unique and require support and care.

 Joining a support group can also remind the person that they are not alone. When a person undergoes a life-changing event, such as a serious diagnosis, it can alter the course of their life. When that happens, the urge to isolate yourself to prevent "becoming a burden" becomes tempting, but doing so rarely offers emotional security. On the other hand, joining a group can give one a new perspective and assurance.

How to Join a Cancer Support Group?

If you are interested in joining a cancer support group, consider asking your local hospital for any available meetings. You may also ask friends or peers for input or if they know any groups that offer a listening ear.

Bottomline: While a support group can help one cope, it is not a requirement for a person to join one. After all, not everyone who undergoes similar situations may find it beneficial because of various reasons.

However, it doesn't hurt to keep an open mind and see if joining a support group can help ease the burden. If you feel you do not fit in well with one group, there is no harm in looking for another group that aligns better with your emotional needs and values.